men will always be 'sexist' and women will always think we're 'sexist'.. its just the way things are.. i dont think its a cultural thing.. i think its why we're so different..
Weird theory. Men are not naturally sexist nor do women think you are. My Chilean boyfriend isn’t. My Chilean male friends aren´t. It´s absolutely cultural and if you are raised in a non-sexist environment, chances are, you´re not going to be sexist either.
for example.. do men look at women?.. yes they do.. everywhere.. its how we are wired.. now perhaps men in Australia or the US or Canada dont react the same way as men here but they STILL do it.. are Chileans worse cos they are obvious?..
I think you´re confusing things here. Of course you´ll look at attractive women. So do I. Or at attractive men. Humans are just attracted by physical beauty, it´s something fascinating and no one needs to be ashamed about it. What I reject is sexually harassing behaviour, you know, you can just look at a woman or you can stare at her from Iop to bottom as if you were x-raying her intimate parts. Or you could do weird things with your tongue while she´s passing by. It´s not about being obvious, but about being outright offensive and disrespectful.
which leads me to this point.. why women wanna be treated as equals?.. i mean how do men treat each other?.. how do men speak to each other?.. i dunno if women really understand this..
If you stopped to just “think” about what women like and want, you might be surprised about our capacity to understand things. Why we wanna be treated like equals? Seriosuly? Maybe because it would be great to be paid the same money like men for an equivalent job. Just to name one example.
like i dont think my wife would like it very much if i treated her they way i treat my mates.. dont get me wrong.. its not like i treat my mates badly.. i just treat em like guys.. no tip toeing cos their feelings may get hurt.. brutal honesty.. i know for sure that my wife doesnt handle brutal honesty very well.. what is equality.. is it in JUST some areas? (which wouldnt make it EQUAL)
I hear this argument ALL the time. Of course we want to be treated equally. Now, one great male argument in this context is: Ah, so you don´t want men to help you lifting heavy stuff? Of course I do, but for strictly biological reason. No one argues that men overall are stronger and have more muscles than women do. So it´s just common sense that the stronger person would help the weaker one. I if saw a weaker female friend of mine trying to lift something, logically I would help her, too. And as to speaking with "brutal honesty" to your wife, you´re comparing apples with pears. I don´t see why there should be a difference in how we treat our male or female mates, but of course that´s not the same way in which you treat your partner, independently if s(he)´s a man or woman. You know, if you´re having a fight with your mate, you can just opt to not see him for some time, but with your wife it´s more complicated, since you live with her, might have kids... so it´s just common sense to treat her with more delicacy.
So, resuming my point, women just want to be treated with respect and in Chile as a woman you´re confronted with disrespectful behavior almost on a daily basis. I find it the most shocking in the job-related area, for example, some clients I have to deal with have shown really inappropriate behavior, for example a guy who after a strictly job-related meeting , before leaving, caressed my face as if I was a little child or a cute dog or something like that. Another thing which I hate is when strangers (like taxi drivers etc.) call you insistently "mi amor", it´s just "nada que ver".
By the way, I've always wanted to know something that I never asked before but have always been curious about. Do foreign women get shocked or something by the way we chileans greet others (cheek kissing and stuff)?