Britkid wrote: ↑
Sat Jan 19, 2019 8:57 pm
admin wrote: ↑
Fri Jan 18, 2019 10:45 am
couple of years ago a good friend got in a bit of financial pinch. was not going to be able to pay the rent, school for the kids, etc. she did not aproach us for help, but we found out about it through mutual friends they were in trouble.
so my wife and i decided we should help them out. I felt it kind of patronizing and not terribly helpful to hand them say 20,000 pesos, when they really needed like 500,000 just to keep a roof over their head. like handing someone a tea cup to bail out the titanic.
so we debated loaning them money. which, i am seriously against loaning money to anyone, let alone friends. bad things happen, probably certain to end a friendship at best.
Then i had the deeply selfish philosophical thought. I realized we could just give them the money, and i could just chalk it up to the price of having friends.
if my friends got kicked out their house, they would have to move out of town (nothing to rent here). then we will have to find new friends. which after considering dinners, wine, other requirments to get to know someone. expect a few false starts with people we don't like, it is going to cost way more than 500,000 pesos.
So, what did you actually do?
Sorry thought that was obvious, and now realize I kind of left that story hanging.
I a gave them the money. they dug themselves out if their financial whole, and we are still good friends. so money well spent.
nothing worse than trying to help someone out, and have them piss it away.
we have never talked about it again. they have never asked us for money. think i have like lent them my jumper cables and a ladder since then, that they have always promtly returned. that is why i gave them the money in the first place. they were all around good people, and as far as i know anyway, not the kind of people that go around playing the loan game so many chileans like to play.
employees on the other hand know not to even ask us for loans, ever.
how do i put it. we make a point to give off a clear vibe, 'We may or may not loan you the money, but we will definitly cut you loose from your job just for asking'.
I consider it a cultural red flag, and most chileans also know friends or employees, that start doing that are probably not your friends or are not trust worthy employees.
Gringos seem to have trouble readying those cultural cues.
with our employees, that is mostly i believe an implied extension of a written policy we have with our employees for years, and it is in their employment contract, that they and their family members can not accept money or gifts in any form from one of our clients or third-parties without our express authorization. if they do, it is immediate termination.
It creates conflicts of interest, ambiguity in our relationships, and a pile of other problems on many levels.
wich means i am constantly stopping (especially american) gringos clients from trying to do silly things like "tip" my employees. It is as much for my employees' protection as our clients', and our own protection. we simply never want to deal with any "missunderstandings". occasionally a client will offer an enployee a token gift of apreciation, say a box of chocalates, a scarf, etc; but, all of our employees know to check with us first before accepting it. they are not going to risk their job over a little gift.
when there is a particular big project is completed, that our employees worked particularly hard on, and everything is settled, we will from time time suprise them with a bonus. however it is from us, no one else.